Sign up to join our community!
Please sign in to your account!
Lost your password? Please enter your email address. You will receive a link and will create a new password via email.
Please briefly explain why you feel this question should be reported.
Please briefly explain why you feel this answer should be reported.
Please briefly explain why you feel this user should be reported.
Some people keep choosing the same relationship pattern because it is familiar to them even though it isn’t a healthy partnership. Familiar isn’t always a good thing such as in this situation.
Why do people choose to stay in relationships that they constantly complain about?
You must login to add an answer.
Relationship is a need. When you are at a primary stage of relationship, you do everything for making him or her happy. If you are able to do that, you feel immense pleasure, specifically if your partner acknowledges it. You feel that the person you idolise as symbol of love is appreciating you. Psychologicaly your mind associates that person with your sense of happiness, inner peace, desires etc. You feel to have a person to depend on…a sort of codependency develops.
But over a period of time, this becomes usual and you are no more noticed or appreciated with equal enthusiasm. So the perception about your partner changes. Now you start feeling a lack in your inner feelings and you find your partner responsible for it. Accordingly the talks, subjects, agendas, volume pitch…everything changes.
So the people who says that relationships are bad, are standing at that stage… But the codependency is not
They are right and they are not right.
It\’s all in the phrasing.
Relationships are not bad but demanding. We all come with set ideas, ideals and are feeling safe in this comfort zone.
Relationships demand adjustment to a changing situation and we are reluctant to shift our asses.
But again, though relationships though demanding, are a pleasant distraction which we all enjoy.
For them the good may outweigh the bad.
Or, as seen in the epitaph “He died doing what he loved the most – hating what he was doing” they just like to complain. If nothing is broke they either break stuff so they can complain, or complain about things that are not broken & they don’t really care about.
Others really feel trapped (and maybe they are).
I would first recommend that you look up the phrase “bad picker.” The way I\’ve heard it explained by a therapist is that all people have different “attachment styles.” That would also be a good term to look up. It all seems to boil down to emotional and social dysfunctions that we develop during childhood. This is hard to undo for two main reasons:
Sometimes, when someone is finally a miserable, broken mess, and have nowhere to turn, they\’ll get therapy, start to uncover their issues, and develop better emotional intelligence so that they are drawn to better romantic partners and stop sabotaging healthy relationships.